Embracing Grief to Live Life Fully

It’s okay to grieve. 

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by sorrow. 

It’s absolutely normal to cry when someone or something so close to your heart is no longer here. Grief is heavy, and no one will truly understand your pain—but trust me, people care. I care.

As I look back, I feel the ache of sadness. I can’t help but notice the empty space left behind. I have compassion on myself and give myself permission to grieve because I miss my loved one!

And guess what? This is normal.

Our Death-Denying Society

There were nights when I cried until I couldn’t anymore. I look at my girls argue and think to myself, "Wow, they don't even appreciate the gift of having another sibling." The tears come like a flood, soaking my pillow, and my heartaches. 

But you know what? 

When the tears stop, I feel a small sense of relief. Like I’ve let a little bit of the heaviness out. Because we're not meant to stay in the storm.

I find comfort in my memories—little kicks in my stomach, images on the ultrasounds, slient glances as she explored the room, and her tiny body craddled in my arms. I told her “I love you” all the time, and I found peace in her little smile. I can still hear her little voice in my mind. I miss her stares, holding her, and feeding her. I miss all my loved ones that are no longer here.

I still experience moments where sadness sneaks in—when I feel lonely or even a little scared. It’s hard not having them here.

But I also know they had to go. And as much as it hurts, I let them go. I picture her little spirit free, her heart healed, and with other loved ones who have passed on. And I believe, one day, I’ll see her and other loved ones again. That brings me comfort and peace.

For now, I remind myself to hold onto this life I’ve been given. To live in the present. To savor the moments I have with the people still here. 

Grief has taught me to live intentionally, to love deeply, that I am not in control, and to find joy even when it feels hard.

Support is Here

If you’re grieving too, you’re not alone in this. We’re in it together.
 
Let’s reflect for a moment:
•    Who can I lean on to help me with my grief?
•    What can I do to support my own healing?
•    How does it feel to see others cope with grief?
 
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